Last week we talked about general awkward networking moments. Here are a few more:
Dealing with flirtation:
There are probably several very bad ways to handle these awkward moments. Traditionally, we believe that this is just a one-way street; it is not.
If this is a problem that is repetitive, ask yourself what signals you may be giving that are inviting these advances. Check your attire, attitude and message for hidden mixed signals. Another checkpoint would be to check out the group. Is this the culture of the group?
I believe it is effective to just simply say “excuse me, I need to talk to so-and-so” and then walk away. The other would be “excuse me, I need to step away” and then head to the restroom.
It may not be a bad idea to let the sponsors of the event know that someone has been blatantly inappropriate. This is purely your call.
Dealing with people who drink too much:
What you say to end these conversations is identical to the section above. Get out of these conversations early and move on to one that is more appropriate and productive. If you did not realize that this event was more of a celebration than a business networking event, then make a strategic decision on whether to participate in the celebration or leave.
Dealing with the hard-sell networker:
The conversation starts sounding like a well rehearsed sales pitch. The questions begin to probe deeper into your business, almost at hello. The person interrupts a closed conversation between two people and steamrolls into their own pitch and agenda. This can be a difficult situation to handle, and maybe the one time where interruption is not rude. Wait for an opening and say “thank you for sharing that information; our business does not need those services.” Shake hands and walk away. If the opening never comes and time is passing and the heat is rising either in you or in the presentation, just say “please stop (or please wait a moment), thanks for that information, my business does not use (or need) your services.” Shake hands and walk away.
Don’t burn bridges; be firm and polite to people who are not professional. Even the occasional smile (except to the flirt or person who has drunk too much) may be helpful. We are not here to punish or judge people; we are here to build our networks and businesses. The room is also watching your behavior as well. Two wrongs don’t make it right.
Take control of your emotions and your thoughts when you are placed in these awkward moments. Remember that nothing anyone says or does can take your inner confidence from you. Your smile and confident answers leaves you in control. If somehow you find yourself in an awkward situation, you don’t need to allow the situation to dictate who you are or how you will respond.
Remember that even if someone else is acting inappropriately or not to your liking, you have the right to choose to leave that situation or conversation. Removing yourself with dignity is what your response should be.
Excerpt taken from the book “10 Answer Keys, Effective Business Networking” availabe on Amazon.com
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